Beliefs about how we should be, are often the driving force force behind our actions or inactions! 
The belief that ‘I am not enough’ is often the underlying reason people don’t take action and stay stuck, coupled with one or more fears. For example the fear of being criticised or ridiculed, the fear of not knowing enough, the fear of not getting it right or not being clever enough or commonly the fear of not being physically attractive enough – ‘I am not enough’

Recently I had the opportunity to work with a high achieving business women, a doctor in her field with many years experience, yet she carried the belief ‘I am not enough’. The impact of this inner belief lead to carrying a heavy, overwhelming burden of self judgment and inner criticism.

Why do we beat ourselves up inwardly? The answer is simple, deep down we are comparing ourselves to someone else, someone who in our perception is better, possibly more successful, more qualified, more attractive, or more socially connected etc ….
Whether in a personal or professional way, feeling ‘not enough’ hinders your innate potential. When we put others above us we are in judgment, out of equilibrium in our thinking, this is a lopsided perception. Every single person has a unique ability or gift, not owning and honoring your natural unique way, your unique gift and trying to be like someone else or how others think you should be, will leave you feeling ‘I am not enough’
The Buddha said ‘the  search for our idealisms is the source of our suffering.

It is wiser to balance the lopsided perception and ask where am I smarter, faster and better than anyone else? Acknowledge your unique way, your unique creativity and natural talent. Acknowledging and honoring your own unique genius you find no one else can compete with you in this area. Trying to match some other individuals ‘enough’ leads to inner conflict, insecurity, lack of self worth, sometimes culminating as with my client in burnout, trying to match someone else’s ‘enough’ is futile!

Take a moment to look carefully where the person you are comparing yourself to, putting above you is equally not enough. Look at which area of life are they not achieving in, have made mistakes in and had failure. By asking this question you bring balance to the lopsided perception.
My client through consultation soon realised each person has a balance of success and failure throughout life, it simply transforms and evolves as we journey, she realised people are not worth putting above or below us.

It takes quality questions to bring lopsided perceptions into balance, when you do there is an instant, discernable shift from ‘I am not enough, to I am enough’. 

If you perceive you are ‘not enough’ and are fearful of doing the one thing you would love to get on and accomplish or create or experience, contact me, I would love to help you to see your unique  ‘I am enough’